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Finding Spiritual Authenticity in the Selfie Age

2/27/2019

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Finding Spiritual Authenticity in the Selfie Age

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The last century brought us many dramatic philosophical shifts that forever changed how our modern culture functions and collectively thinks. And while none of us likes to acknowledge that marketing and advertising slogans can wield the kind of power to change society, the reality is that they do. Take for example the tagline, “Because I’m worth it,” which was coined in 1973 to help L’Oréal sell more hair color. What started as a simple, but highly emotive benefit statement turned into a societal stake in the ground by women of all backgrounds, ethnicities and socioeconomic status.

And just so the men don’t feel left out of this nondiscriminatory wave called advertising, recall the beer campaign featuring “the most interesting man in the world,” who is portrayed as being the ultimate “man’s man” — brave, unconventional, and adored by women half his age from all over the world. In both of these campaigns, we are invited to see ourselves in their eyes. We are encouraged to imagine ourselves as strong, confident, attractive, and so successful that no one can resist wanting to be around us or become us. The ideal specimens of men and women are presented with the implied promise that any one of us can aspire to be equally ideal as they are and therefore as widely admired.

Today more than ever, we are bombarded on a daily basis by images of “ideal” people living enviable lives doing exciting things with beautiful companions in the most exotic of locations. The difference is they are not models or actors hawking hair color, beer, or some other packaged good. They are promoting themselves. And while there’s certainly money as a reward for the elite few who stumble upon viral success, most are displaying themselves simply for the attention. If yesterday’s status symbols were luxury watches and high-priced cars, today’s symbol is the number of social media followers. And the lure of “fame” is also nondiscriminatory. All types, backgrounds, and ages are sucked into this overwhelming tidal wave of self-promotion. But unlike pricey status symbols of the past, the path to social media prestige is financially accessible, making it all the more pervasive… and addictive.

Perhaps the most disheartening is the way this addiction has not only seeped into the Christian culture, it’s also been welcomed and even encouraged — perhaps unintentionally — by many of its perceived leaders and key influencers. Of course, it’s packaged and presented differently, but it’s still pushing the same promise in the name of Christ: obtain followers in order to widen your sphere of influence for the Kingdom of God. Maybe another way to put it is, “Share your joyful life so that others may see Jesus and want what He offers too.” It sounds good, right?

Now before anyone thinks I’m advocating for an abandonment of social media entirely or that I’m a hypocrite because I’m trying to build a social media following for this blog, it’s important for me to be clear with what the Holy Spirit has been drumming into my thick head and stubborn heart over the last few months. It’s critically important because I’m not in this alone. If you’re listening or reading right now, then you, my friend, are a vital part of this too. You’re not just a reader or a listener, you’re an accountability partner. You are my fellow traveler on this faith journey.

God made it clear to me almost two years ago that I should leave my corporate career and take a leap of faith to serve Him full time... with or without compensation. Gulp. “Ok, Lord, here goes,” I essentially said back. And as it is with learning anything new, from making a new recipe to forging a new ministry, I sought wisdom and practical guidance from just about anyone with integrity that seemed to have the credibility, experience, and values that aligned with the direction I thought God was calling me. I prayed and sought the Word for wisdom. I was being highly selective with who I listened to, and despite all of that, I kept hearing the same stomach-turning advice over and over: if you want to write in service to God, you must — as in, there is no other path — build a platform in social media. You must collect followers. Without followers, you will not have an audience. Without an audience, you will never get a publisher. Without followers, you won’t even be able to self-publish. In short, nothing will happen and very few people will be impacted as a result of your work. Oh, and by the way, you also can’t make a living that way.

Now aware of that disheartening pronouncement on my entire future as a writer, I put my novel development on hold for a while, committed to praying even more, and started learning how to professionally manage and optimize my social media efforts about four months ago. I can’t even tell you how many articles I’ve read or workshops, podcasts, and trainings I’ve listened to. It feels like a thousand, but I know it’s not quite that high.

And what are the results, you might ask? The answer: very few followers, but a tremendous amount of confirmation of what I don’t want to become. Prior to my self-induced training period, I used social media very rarely. I shared blog posts and an occasional personal update, but that was about it. I never used Pinterest to search for anything. I couldn’t find time to browse Instagram. But once I actually had to become familiar with them and what works to be “successful” on them as an author, the Holy Spirit began to whisper to me, “Where is my glory?” And as I discovered Christian blogger after blogger posting more photos of themselves than anything else and allowing their devotional content to be fragmented by gaudy and distracting external advertisers, the louder God’s voice became in my heart. “This platform isn’t focused on Me. There’s more noise here than my Word.”

The crazy thing is that most of the content on these sites was fairly good or useful information. Some of it was theologically sound and encouraging. But the Truth was being drowned out by an attempt to sell the author’s own brand, their enviable lifestyle, their various products, or ads and links to other people’s products. At this point, the Holy Spirit reminded me of John 2:13-16 where Jesus throws the money changers out of the temple. Of course, none of these Christian websites is a literal temple, but they are all promising people who access them an encounter with the Living God, are they not? Another verse came to my mind at this point. James 3:1 says, “Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness.” Yet in perusing hundreds of faith-based blogs, I found that more than 80 percent of the hyper-successful sites with thousands of followers also promoted their lifestyle and their own proprietary training modules for blogging success in addition to their Christian content, such as Bible studies, devotionals, etc. I’m not talking about authors promoting their own faith-focused books and spiritual growth workshops. No, the vast majority of them were enticing people to pay money to learn how to become a successful blogger just like them.

Now I understand that people have to earn a living. As someone who’s not on anyone’s payroll right now, I am painfully aware of that need. But what God is wrestling out with my soul is how should Christians consume and contribute to the social media machine? This is not just about my choice or the other faith writers and speakers out there. This is also about our readers and listeners. The wider Christian audience has a responsibility for helping to feed this machine. Yes, Paul admonishes us to be all things to all people and to be relevant to the cultures in which we are sharing Christ (1 Corinthians 9:19-23). But where is the line between cultural relevancy for the sake of the Gospel and pure self-promotion for the sake of ourselves? Jesus calls us to be authentically His (Luke 10:27) and genuine in our glorification of Him in every area of our lives (Isaiah 43:7). Every area. Period.

I’m not declaring that all the Christian bloggers who allow external ads on their sites or sell secular training products are in the wrong. What God has led them to do is between them and Him. And I personally love some of their content. What I do know is that God doesn’t want me doing it. Microscopic, small, or large, whatever community God places me in or whatever following comes for my blog will have to be sparked by people’s attraction to Jesus and the life He offers, not because someone thought I was cool or my life is charming (which it is not anyway).

On the other hand, I am unequivocally concerned about the social media influencers out there who claim to be trumpeting Jesus but fill their social media feeds and websites with images and products that put themselves front and center. And I think all of us as readers and followers need to think about that as well. No one should be on a pedestal but Jesus, and I don’t want to be a part of putting them there.

Next week, mainly because I didn’t have enough space this week, I will share more about having authenticity in this selfie, social media-driven age. As long as it doesn’t spark addiction or compromise the Holy Spirit’s guidance, I believe Christians should participate at some level in social media because, sadly, that is where people are searching for truth and hope. And if people are looking for truth, then we have a responsibility to share Him with them where they are. Over the last four months, I noticed five bold lies that Satan seems to be using over and over through social media to corrode the perspectives of both Christians and non-believers alike. So please come back next week and continue this journey with me. In the meantime, I would love to hear your thoughts about social media and how Christians should interact online. Comment on my website or take it to social media. After all, that’s what it’s for! Either way, I’d love to hear from you on this subject and what you’ve discovered in your own times of soul wrestling.

Questions for Further Reflection

Matthew 23:12 says, “Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.” How should this verse guide anything we do in social media, whether it be posting something ourselves or looking at content others have shared?
Social media is a lot like food. There are healthy options and then there’s junk food. What might God be leading you to do with your social media habits to both glorify Him and to help others encounter Him?
Read 2 Corinthians 3:18. How can you cultivate an appetite for glorifying God more than focusing on those in leadership or popular influencers? If you use social media in your job or for your business, what might God be calling you to adjust or change about your approach? If you want to read more, take a look at a new book called Influence: Building a Platform that Elevates Jesus (Not Me), by Kate Motaung and Shannon Popkin.

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The Most Neglected Way to Grow Closer to Jesus

2/20/2019

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The Most Neglected Way to Grow Closer to Jesus is Tithing

How Money May Be Keeping You Away From God

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Approximately 75% of American Christians are completely missing out on one of the most powerful ways to strengthen their faith and experience untold blessings in their lives. And of the 25% who do take part in this amazing spiritual discipline, only a mere 3 to 5% do it regularly despite two stunning facts. #1: it is mentioned in the Bible more than any other topic. And #2: it comes with an unequivocal promise of abundant blessing if it is practiced. What is it? Surrendering your heart and worshipping God through the consistent giving of tithes and offerings. Yikes! Some of you are about to tune me out right now. But before you do, please ask yourself this one thing, “Why did I react that way?” My guess is because most of us were brought up in a household where we were taught not to talk about money. It’s a private matter. It’s impolite. It’s personal. Money — more than any other thing on earth — instantly drives a stake in the ground. The moment it is mentioned or thought of, our skin starts to crawl. Something deep within our souls recoils and we instantly feel a teensy bit (or maybe a lot) uncomfortable.

But WHY? Why are we raised this way? Why do most of us get weird about it? Do we feel guilty because we secretly want more of it? Is it fear that we might lose what we have? Is it pride or keeping up appearances that prevent us from wanting others to know what we actually own… or how little we have? God knew from the dawn of creation that humans would have a volatile and uncomfortable relationship with money. Just read the story of Cain and Able’s first sacrifice in Genesis to refresh your memory! Giving back didn’t go over so well with Cain and Able paid the price with his life. That’s why you’ll find more than 2,350 verses in Scripture about money. Sixteen of the 38 parables Jesus told included instruction about how to handle money and possessions. And although it’s often misquoted, 1 Timothy 6:10 says, “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.” Note that it doesn’t say that money IS the root of all evil. Money simply makes the path into trouble and danger easier to find.

But what if you could conquer your discomfort or your hesitation about money entirely? What if, in the process, by doing so, you drew closer to Jesus than you ever thought possible? What if… you believed in the promise associated with giving back to God enough to be in that 5% group and subsequently witnessed amazing things happening in your life? Conversely, what if NOT ever doing it meant that you would probably miss out on God’s greatest plans for your life?

Whether you’ve never tithed, tried it occasionally, or are practicing it regularly, the temptations associated with money’s role in our lives will never go away entirely this side of heaven, but these reminders about its place in God’s plan and how He wants to use it to bless us for His glory will be an encouragement and a challenge for us all.

How Money Sneaks Up on Us — Materialism is always lurking and it can come at us in surprising ways, which are as varied as there are people. Here are three key ways money or possessions can become a root of evil in our lives, eventually spawning serious threats to our walk with Jesus.

Money and possessions create an emotional attachment because we paid a price for something and now we want to protect it. It’s a natural human reaction when we acquire something we either worked hard for or feel that we deserve. Whatever we seek becomes our treasure. God understands what it means to pay a price for something valuable. He gave the life of Jesus to be with us. He understands first hand how attached we become to what we buy. Jesus said in Matthew 6:21, “Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” What we treasure becomes what we live for, whether we consciously realize that fact or not.
Materialism distracts us, distorts our desires, and consumes our time, limiting how we serve God, love others, and give back. Ecclesiastes 5:10 warns us that the more we have, the more we desire, and the less we are satisfied. Proverbs 28:25 says that the pursuit of money stirs up conflict, and I think that means both internal and external struggles.
Pursuing wealth and stuff without putting God first through tithing weakens or disables our spiritual gifts and calling. When we are too attached to possessions or too focused on money, it can severely hamper us from serving God as He intended. In Mark 10, a wealthy young man approaches Jesus with great reverence and asks, “What must I do to inherit eternal life?” Obviously talented and smart, God had blessed the young man with many gifts, but his attachment to his wealth kept him from finding his greater calling in Christ. Jesus looked at him and saw into his heart. He knew that this young man had an immense burden that was weighing him down far more than any of the others in the crowd that day. It was a terrible condition far worse than those who were blind, lame or suffering from leprosy. The treasure of this man’s heart was big, deeply entrenched and very misguided. We don’t know if he eventually surrendered everything to Jesus or not, but on that particular day he “went away sorrowful.” He wanted to draw close to Jesus, but his money had created a barrier stronger than stone between them.

What God Calls Us to Do — The prescription to our heart condition is simply stated, but hard to cultivate, especially in the beginning. However, the Holy Spirit will empower us with every step of faith we take. The more we give back to Him out of every paycheck, the more exponentially our faith will increase.

He calls us to worship Him, not material things. And worshipping Him through tithes and offerings helps us keep our emotional attachments in check and our hearts focused on what’s important. Giving back to God is a proven path to healing for the spiritual condition of the human heart. God doesn’t ask us to tithe a portion of our money to Him because He or the church needs it. God asks us to give in order to heal us, to renew us, and to reshape us. According to Psalm 51:16-17, it’s not about the money itself. It’s about our willingness to surrender it all to Him in unabashed worship and adoration.
The Bible exhorts us to give sacrificially with a joyful heart.2 Corinthians 9:6-8 says, “The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work.” If you have not reached the place where you can give to God out of joy and with a heart of worship, pray and meditate on that verse, asking the Holy Spirit to overflow your heart with trust and thanksgiving.
Trust in His protection and sovereignty as the owner and creator of all things.1 Chronicles 29:11 says, “Yours, O Lord, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the victory and the majesty, for all that is in the heavens and in the earth is yours. Yours is the kingdom, O Lord, and you are exalted as head above all.” Psalm 91:1 promises us “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High, will abide in the shadow of the Almighty.” In other words, when we place our trust in God, we will enjoy His direction and His protection over every moment of our lives.

How We’ll Be Blessed — Tithing, when practiced regularly and permanently, produces miraculous results in ways that will astound you, humble you, and draw you closer to the heart of Jesus in tangible ways. It is the only command in all of Scripture that comes with a clear invitation to test God. In Malachi 3:10-11 it’s like He is saying, “Go ahead. Do it. Ask me to prove how much you can trust me. And then stand back and watch in wonder what I do in your heart, mind, and life.” Getting into the practice of tithing will literally create a seismic shift in your walk with God. How you see things, your contentment level, your desires… almost everything will begin to change. When we study tithing in context with the whole of the Bible, it is beyond doubt that the blessings promised in Malachi don’t necessarily result in financial gain or prosperity, but the spiritual blessings of the abundant life Jesus promised are guaranteed.

We will be trained and prepared to serve Him in greater and greater ways for His glory, not our own. Jesus said in Luke 16:10-11, “If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities. And if you are untrustworthy about worldly wealth, who will trust you with the true riches of heaven?” The surrender of our material resources has a powerful way of making us more humble.
We will gain financial peace and a contented heart. Hebrews 13:5tells us to keep our lives free from the love of money and purse a contented heart. When we turn things over to God’s capable management and honor Him through giving, we find immeasurable peace knowing our futures are in the hands of the King. I love the way John Piper put it in his article entitled Toward the Tithe and Beyond, “If expenses almost inevitably expand to fill the income—how shall we restrain ourselves from accumulating more and more stuff and more and more expensive stuff, and looking to the world like we have all the same values they do in our little earthly prelude to eternity? The answer is that as our income grows, we move beyond the tithe. We resolve to give a greater and greater percentage of our income to advance the kingdom. This puts the brakes on our natural impulse toward luxury.”
We will be better protected and miraculously sustained. Psalm 41:1-3says those who are generous and give to the poor will have God’s special protection. And the second half of the Malachi passage promises this, “‘Bring all the tithes into the storehouse so there will be enough food in my Temple. If you do,’ says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies, ‘I will open the windows of heaven for you. I will pour out a blessing so great you won’t have enough room to take it in!’” I have personally seen miraculous provision from God on countless occasions, ranging from friends unexpectedly pitching in to help with a project, an unanticipated check in the mail, a promotion at work during a time of great need, and even a place to live for a displaced relative. But the greatest blessing of all has been the gradual reduction of my desires for things He knows will distract me from serving Him. The more I pursue God the more I long for the things He loves and not the things I used to love.

Giving your tithes and offerings to God is simply worship. It is part of learning to love Him with all your heart, soul, and mind. It is just another way you and I become living sacrifices to Him — for His specific use and under His protection. And if you make a commitment to Him – that He has led you to make -- He will do His part to deliver on His end of the bargain. Now that’s something you can bank on.

How has God provided for you? Comment below to share your stories of our Heavenly Father’s provision for you and your family.

Questions for Further Reflection and Next Steps

Are there any areas where you can sense that materialism has crept into your heart? Is there anything that you desire that sometimes overshadows your love for God or distracts you from serving? Is there any seed of comparison or sense of pride in your heart about your attitude and perspectives toward money? For more about finding contentment, see this blog post.
In what ways is God challenging you to make changes in your financial habits? As you go to God in prayer, pray this Psalm 51:10 back to Him.
If you would like help with your finances or want to learn more about tithing, even if you have debt, I encourage you to seek out a Bible study on finances at your church, check out these resources from Dave Ramsey, or check out his book on financial peace from your local library.

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The 5 Hallmarks of Satisfying Love

2/13/2019

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Love letters have long been revered as one of the most romantic ways of communicating feelings to the one held most dear. There is something so charming and enduring about setting ink to paper in order to pour out the strongest longings of the heart that virtually all cultures throughout history have practiced it in one form or another. From the first surreptitious note we pass to the cute classmate to the constant and often obtrusive texting of today’s modern romances, communicating in writing about love can be one of the most satisfying experiences the human heart can conceive.

In 1994 Johnny Cash sent a birthday letter to his wife June that has since been voted the greatest love letter of all time. Here is part of the short letter: We get old and get used to each other. We think alike. We read each other’s minds. We know what the other wants without asking. Sometimes we irritate each other a little bit. Maybe sometimes take each other for granted. But once in a while, like today, I meditate on it and realize how lucky I am to share my life with the greatest woman I ever met. You still fascinate and inspire me. You influence me for the better. You’re the object of my desire, the #1 Earthly reason for my existence. I love you very much.

Clearly, he was very satisfied with their relationship, finding much of life’s greatest meaning in their identity as a couple. In just a few sentences, Johnny manages to encapsulate five hallmarks of satisfying love. He begins by expressing undying gratitude and adoration, followed by an expression of inexhaustible interest, a willing submission to her influence, an unquenchable romantic desire, and finally, a closing declaration that she was his very reason for living. It’s that last one I find the most haunting, as Johnny did indeed quickly followed June — within just four months — when she passed away in May 2003. She was the center of his world, and while it’s medically debatable whether or not he died of a broken heart, it’s perhaps the heart-touching irony of his declaration that edged out other famous contenders in the love letter poll. The words he penned to his beloved, even beat out the literary heavyweights like Keats and Hemmingway.

As I thought about the way Johnny gave his whole heart to June despite their differences and shortcomings, I was once again reminded of a quote from Tim Keller about marriage and how God designed it to be a picture of His union with us and His sacrificial love for us. “To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.”

Like marriage is analogous to God’s commitment and love for us, when we look at the five hallmarks of satisfying love expressed in Johnny’s letter, we can also see parallels of them in Scripture, which is God’s love letter to humankind. In God's Word, we can find the most satisfying love on earth and also be assured of unending, perfect love throughout eternity.

A mutually adoring love. While we can never equal the greatness of God’s love within the bounds of our flawed humanity, a relationship with our Heavenly Father is all about mutual adoration. Zephaniah 3:17 says that God sings or rejoices over us. Over and over Scripture tells us that God loves us more than we can fathom (Ephesians 3:14-19) and that we were created to have a loving, intensely personal relationship with Him (John 14:23, 1 John 1:1-3). Jesus stated in Matthew 22:37 that the greatest commandment of all is to love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind and soul.

An inexhaustible interest in each other. We are made in God’s image, so it should be no surprise that our relationship with Him should mirror those we have with each other. When two people no longer find each other fascinating, then the relationship usually dies. But God is keenly interested in us, to the point where He knows the number of hairs on our heads (Matthew 10:30-31) and exactly what we need in every area of our lives (Matthew 6:8). He has plans us for us since before we born (Jeremiah 29:11) and will stay intensely involved with us until He brings them to fruition (Philippians 1:6). As such, God asks us to seek Him, using all of our hearts, minds, and souls to know Him better. As long as we earnestly ask Him to reveal Himself to us, He will (Deuteronomy 4:29).

A willing submission to influence. In any earthly relationship, both people need to be open to the influence of the other. In his book The Meaning of Marriage, Tim Keller explains that marriage is God’s design for two people to help each other progress toward who they are meant to be in Christ. “Friends become wiser together through a healthy clash of viewpoints. Like a surgeon, friends cut you in order to heal you.” In the same manner, the bride of Christ is to joyfully and fully surrender to God’s leading as He shapes us into our best for Him. Isaiah 64:8 says, “But now, O Lord, you are our Father; we are the clay, and you are our potter; we are all the work of your hand.” Sometimes the molding is achieved through trials and other times change might be sparked by others close to us. But no matter what, we must be willing to let God guide, change, and mold us for His glory.

An unquenchable desire. God will go to any length to bring us closer to Him. In the parable of the lost sheep in Luke 15, Jesus said, “What man of you, having a hundred sheep, if he has lost one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the open country, and go after the one that is lost, until he finds it?” Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” When we seek our greatest pleasure in Jesus, He will replace the desires of our heart with His.

A reason for living. Although Johnny declared that June was his reason for existence in the letter, he was very transparent about his faith in Jesus in the media and to his fans. In the early 1970s he and June began a close, enduring friendship with Billy and Ruth Graham. According to Mike Garrett, Johnny’s nephew, he began prioritizing his service to Billy’s crusades over his music career and concert tour, which is the number one way a musician earns a living. Jesus said in Luke 9:24, “For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will save it.” It is only when we find our primary meaning in life in Jesus that we will be truly satisfied. Psalm 119:57-58 tells us that God should be our portion, which means the totality of what is good in life. The Matthew Henry commentary says portion means felicity, or our very happiness.

Valentine’s Day is certainly a reminder to check the allegiance of our hearts. And while most people only think of its romantic connotations, the Word of God reminds us that our earthly attachments should be not only reflections of His love, but the instruments through which we serve and glorify Him. It is only then that we can truly find the kind of love that both satisfies and heals. As CS Lewis said in his book The Four Loves, “You have not chosen one another, but I have chosen you for one another. In God there is no hunger that needs to be filled, only plenteousness [e.g. overwhelming abundance] that desires to give.”

Questions for Further Reflection

How do your relationships reflect God’s love or not? As you pray over the ones who are closest to you, ask Him to reveal to you any ways in which your relationships need to be healthier. How can you help those that you care about on their journey to/with Jesus and to be more like Him?
God asks for our whole heart. Read Romans 5:5, 2 Corinthians 5:14, Psalm 9:1, and Psalm 119:2 and Psalm 138. As you read these scriptures, ask Him if there are any corners of your heart that you are holding back from His sovereignty, healing, and love.
If today’s message encouraged you in some way, please pause and ask God what He would have you do based on what you just read (or listened to). In addition to some action step or change on your part, ask Him who He’d like you to reach out today with this same message of hope. Whomever He lays on your heart, please don’t hesitate to begin praying for them immediately. You could also send them this blog post with a personal note encouraging them.

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Winning the Battle Within

2/6/2019

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There is nothing I like more than — and despise at the same time as — falling asleep on the couch. While I do love that warm, soothing feeling of dozing off underneath my favorite fluffy throw while watching an episode of Friends on Netflix, I can hardly think of anything else so good that is simultaneously so burdensome. Why? Because finding the motivation after I wake up to move my lethargic body off the couch, march up the stairs, and get ready for bed feels as monumentally hard as asking me to climb Mount Washington in flip-flops.

Perhaps this is indicative of why I am not a napper. I’ve always wanted to be one of those people who could take a 20-minute cat nap and feel like a million dollars afterward, but instead I wake up feeling like a cat that got locked out of the house last night and got beat up by the neighborhood bully. So as much as I adore settling in for the night in my jammies on the couch, I’ve learned the hard way that when the battle of the eyelids sets in, I must resist with all my might and just go to bed whether or not what I’m watching or reading has concluded.

While the story of my couch battle is certainly one of life’s minor ironies, the spiritual battles within all of us are anything but minor and often stir up baffling contradictions of simultaneous love and hate. We often find ourselves startled when an internal battle swells up and threatens to take us back into old habits, sins, worry, or long-forgotten pain. That thing that we promised God and ourselves that we would never do again. That habit that comes back when we’re under stress, worry, or fatigue. That old wound that we find ourselves going back to revisit after many months of walking in freedom. No matter what the struggle is, we’ve learned the prescription for healing and victory in the past, but either we’re feeling too weak to execute on the remedy or we inexplicably give into willfulness or rebellion.

No matter our spiritual maturity or emotional intelligence level, we have ALL been there and we’ll all be there again. But at every point in our faith journey, we can find concrete encouragement and explicit instructions in God’s Word on how to overcome our battles and learn to love the Lord with all our hearts, minds, and souls. Out of all the fully human champions chronicled in the Bible, King David of the Old Testament and the apostle Paul in the New Testament were the best at confessing and verbalizing the spiritual battles waging within. Through the Psalms and most of Paul’s epistles, we find deeply relatable pleas for help and highly motivational tutorials for managing the war that wages between our fleshly desires and God’s best for us.

One of the many remedies God has directed me to use in effectively fighting internal battles is exercise. Like getting up from the couch after dozing off, some days it takes a seemingly gargantuan effort to make it happen. But yesterday I had an especially rare and alluring incentive — it was sunny and almost 60 degrees at my house. For those not familiar with Maine weather, trust me when I say that a temperature like that in early February makes a Mainer want to break out into the Hallelujah Chorus. And I just about did as I power walked the slushy, muddy roads in my neighborhood. On my turn back toward home, as I looked up at the sunshine filtering down through the tall evergreens, I suddenly realized how much the outcome of our battles is dependent on our perspective. Perspective isn’t just in our minds. It’s a battle plan for a victory already won.

Getting out for some exercise when I don’t want to do so, helps me develop the motivation and attitude I personally need to stay out of mental pitfalls. It also gives me the energy to finish my day strong. When I looked at the uncommon beauty and warmth spilling through the trees, I was reminded of the blessings and hope God gives me, versus whatever cold, uncomfortable, or dangerous roads I may be walking on at the time. As I snapped a quick picture of the scene above me, it was as though God whispered, “See what a difference it makes when you keep your thoughts focused up here, and not on the unfortunate conditions of the road you’re on?”

In Romans (chapters 7 and 8) 7:17-25 -- 8:1-2, Paul confesses about his own internal battles, reassuring us that even the greatest among us must continue to fight the good fight. Because The Message version of the Bible expresses it so profoundly, I’ve included Paul’s entire thoughts on the subject here. He says:

For if I know the law but still can’t keep it, and if the power of sin within me keeps sabotaging my best intentions, I obviously need help! I realize that I don’t have what it takes. I can will it, but I can’t do it. I decide to do good, but I don’t really do it; I decide not to do bad, but then I do it anyway. My decisions, such as they are, don’t result in actions. Something has gone wrong deep within me and gets the better of me every time.

It happens so regularly that it’s predictable. The moment I decide to do good, sin is there to trip me up. I truly delight in God’s commands, but it’s pretty obvious that not all of me joins in that delight. Parts of me covertly rebel, and just when I least expect it, they take charge.

I’ve tried everything and nothing helps. I’m at the end of my rope. Is there no one who can do anything for me? Isn’t that the real question?

The answer, thank God, is that Jesus Christ can and does. He acted to set things right in this life of contradictions where I want to serve God with all my heart and mind, but am pulled by the influence of sin to do something totally different.

With the arrival of Jesus, the Messiah, that fateful dilemma is resolved. Those who enter into Christ’s being-here-for-us no longer have to live under a continuous, low-lying black cloud. A new power is in operation. The Spirit of life in Christ, like a strong wind, has magnificently cleared the air, freeing you from a fated lifetime of brutal tyranny at the hands of sin and death.

The specifics of what we struggle with may change many times throughout our lives, but God is never content to stop peeling away the contaminated layers of our soul as He continually refines His workmanship. Each day on our journey here is one day closer to our final battle, which is already won for us. As I left for my walk, I was wrestling with a strong mental distraction, but the Holy Spirit lifted my head and reminded me that a view of victory was only a perspective shift away. No matter what skirmishes we encounter along the way, Jesus promises triumph for us in the day-to-day struggles of the heart and mind.

1 Corinthians 10:13 tells us that no sin or trial can overtake us without God providing a way of escape or the ability to endure it. And 2 Timothy 1:7 assures us that He has given us a spirit of courage, power, love, and self-control.

Our job is to simply believe those two perspective-changing promises enough to act on them. Keep going as if they are true… because they are. Take the next step believing God will deliver the escape, contentment, hope, peace, mercy, grace, and strength you need as you need it, even though you can’t see it or feel it now. Yes, it’s easier said than done, but the real hard work has already been completed by our Savior. Our temporary battles here are all won because of the eternal victory Jesus has already secured. A valiant warrior holding to the vision of a sure outcome is far more likely to succeed than even the bravest hero with a bleak perspective. And in God’s eyes, we are all warriors, armed with His power and might. “If God is for us, who can be against us?” Paul asks in Romans 8:31 and goes on to say in verse 37, “In all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.”

Some of the roads we’ll walk in this life will be slippery, unpleasant, and cold. We’ll be destined to walk some them over and over until we learn. But our loving Savior has promised that every step we take has the potential to bring us closer to Him. The choice of direction is ours, but the power to move forward is all His.

Questions for Reflection

In what ways do you think you need to shift your perspective about some of the difficulties you face? What can you begin doing with God's help to better prepare for victory in your life?
For every ache in our soul, there is a remedy in God's Word. Read Psalm 40 out loud while you think of the greatest battles you're facing right now. What do you sense God telling you about your struggles? What attributes of God described in this Psalm mean the most to you right now and why?
If today’s message encouraged you in some way, please pause and ask God what He would have you do based on what you just read. In addition to some action step or change on your part, ask Him who He’d like you to reach out today with this same message of hope. Whomever He lays on your heart, please don’t hesitate for one second to begin praying for them. You could also send them this blog post with a personal note encouraging them.

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