Mark Twain once said that there is no such thing as a new idea. “It is impossible. We simply take a lot of old ideas and put them into a sort of mental kaleidoscope. We give them a turn and they make new and curious combinations.” Heroes versus villains, boy meets girl, good versus evil, the underdog making a comeback – these themes and outcomes are as familiar to each of us as the voice of a loved one. It doesn’t matter whether it’s an epic battle in space told in a 2018 movie theater or a child’s bedtime story told by a roaring hearth in the Middle Ages, humans are creatures of habit and a good story well told has been important to us since the dawn of time. 

In the same way, both amateur and professional storytellers are fond of incorporating magic into a tale to make it more alluring and exciting. Disney built an empire by weaving stories of magic. Seven of the top 10 best-selling novels of all time are from the Harry Potter series. Even CS Lewis, one of the most respected Christian writers of all time, used magic in his stories to explain the Gospel to children. He did such an amazing job, Disney turned it into a feature film franchise grossing over $1.5 billion worldwide. 

We are enticed by the thought that something magical could occur to rescue us, comfort us, and remind us that there’s more to life than meets the eye. That’s because we are created in the image of God, and deep within every human being is an innate sense that there must be something more. In their innocence and with trusting hearts, children find it easy to believe in the supernatural. Unlike adults, they don’t have anything to come between them and believing in the unseen or inexplicable. Their vision is not blinded by pride, skepticism, personal agenda, and arrogance. Children are like sponges, constantly exploring and stretching their minds. It’s almost as though everything they see has an element of magic to it. 

Unfortunately though, the definition of what’s magical changes as we grow up. As children, magic is as simple as following Kermit the Frog to the end of the rainbow. As adults, our fantasies become far less innocent and significantly more tainted. And the more we drown ourselves in them, the more extreme they seem to become. It’s one of the most ironic facts of this post-industrial age — the larger our appetites expand for consuming fantastical entertainment about supernatural things, the less we believe that anything supernatural can actually happen. Therefore, the very thing most people crave, is the thing that they will never experience in real life. Instead, many choose to gaze at shoddy counterfeits and lurid diversions until they feel numb and able to forget about their hard day at work, the fight with their spouse, or a looming financial problem. As Neil Postman prophetically said, Americans (and I’m sure the rest of the world) are "amusing ourselves to death". 

So as adults trying to survive in a hyper-stressed, seemingly crazy world, how do we not become jaded, hurt and bitter? How do we cultivate a childlike heart that’s trusting, open to the supernatural, and capable of believing what it can’t see? The answer is simple: humility. Easy to understand, but challenging to implement. Contrary to what many people think, being a savvy, brain-using adult doesn’t mean that we have to kick all notions of the supernatural to the curb. And being an ardent believer in the possibility of the miraculous doesn’t mean we are not called to think. God doesn’t want us to have an immature faith or to not use our intellect in the pursuit of Him. In fact, far from it, we are commanded to move on from milk to “solid food” in our spiritual growth. (Hebrews 5:14) And the Apostle Paul admonishes us to grow up in Christ in 1 Corinthians 13:11-12: "When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.” Yet then why does Jesus seem to emphasize the need to be like children over and over? Because pride grows in us as we grow up. We become too proud to admit there are things we cannot understand. Jesus knew pride was the motivation of the disciples when they asked about being the greatest in the kingdom in Matthew 18:1-4. So he put a child on his knee and said they needed to be humble like her. I love the way Luke 10:21 in The Message version puts it, "At that, Jesus rejoiced, exuberant in the Holy Spirit. 'I thank you, Father, Master of heaven and earth, that you hid these things from the know-it-alls and showed them to these innocent newcomers. Yes, Father, it pleased you to do it this way.'” Again, we see that the typical wisdom of the world can blind us to the real truth and prevent us from seeing the miraculous — whether it’s in the form of something truly spontaneous or something that is slowly transformed over time.  

John Piper says in his book Think, “There is no way to awaken faith or strengthen faith that evades thinking … the mind serves to know the truth that fuels the fires of the heart.” The entire book is a manifesto to truly using your mind as an integral part of your faith experience, and is based on Proverbs 2:3-5, "yes, if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding, if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.” When we have a mind that is seeking the True Knowledge, the Holy Spirit opens our eyes to see God’s supernatural work going on everywhere. 

Since one of my greatest passions — perhaps even my calling — is to help people see glimpses of God in the routine happenings of everyday life, storytelling has become my lifeblood. It’s the reason I quit my job last year to make time to write a novel and blog about God’s relentless pursuit of us. And like CS Lewis, I think the careful, thoughtful incorporation of a kind of magic is critical to draw people in and encourage them to see more clearly the divinely-directed things that happen around us every day. When I write, I am driven to create wonderment for the reader of God’s glory, magnificence, power, and unending love for us. It’s a tall order in a distracted culture with a short attention span, but as Aslan the lion said in Lewis’ first novel, “there is a magic deeper still … before the dawn of time” and it will always triumph. Of course, Aslan represents the Lion of Judah, another name for Christ, who existed before the beginning, who reigns in heaven now, and who is to come back in glory. His light always burns, no matter how brightly other false lights try to outshine it. By following my calling to write, I am believing that God will do the miraculous, and somehow cause the messages He lays on my heart to find their way to the right people at the right time. 

We are all living stories, unfolding day by day. When we get out of bed each morning, the decision that awaits us is will we live out our story for ourselves or be willing to turn it over to God to write for us. Magic in a fairy tale is instantaneous, unpredictable and used as a means to an end. Miracles in our stories may be instantaneous like hearing God’s direction in your heart, or they may take many months or years to come to fruition, like the restoration of a relationship or the healing of a mental illness. Some miracles are as predictable as the sunrise if we have eyes to see them. “His mercies are new every morning…” Lamentations 3:22-23 Most importantly, God’s miracles are never just a means to an end. They are always part of His grand story. And the coolest part is that His believers know exactly how that story is going to end. 
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A friend of mine once told me that the mind is like a muscle. Let it wander however it wants and indulge in whatever it craves, and it will slowly atrophy. The most insidious aspect of this truth is that the decline happens so subtly and gradually over time, we can end up drowning in a pit of bad habits without even realizing how we got there. But stretching the mind, exercising it, and disciplining it will make it healthier, stronger and more agile. This is especially true for the more difficult disciplines, such as spiritual growth, creativity, innovation, or leadership advancement, which can be sabotaged by our minds as soon as our eyes open in the morning. My friend’s advice resonated with me so much, that whenever I get tired of pursuing a truly abundant life, I remind myself over and over that the muscle must be worked daily to stay healthy.
 
One of the most powerful “frenemies” (friend + enemy) of the mind is familiarity. On the plus side, familiarity gives us confidence in relationships and situations we’ve encountered before, boosts our efficiency and performance with routine tasks, minimizes distractions and annoyances, and generally makes us feel comfortable, more relaxed and secure. Thanks to biological familiarity, we eventually don’t notice a bad smell or an annoying noise if it’s consistently present for a long period of time. And thank goodness, we all get more comfortable with routine places, situations and relationships, so we don’t remain as nervous and inefficient at our jobs as we did on the first day of employment. As a vital coping mechanism, familiarity can lower our heart rates and stress levels. Certainly, there are some patterns and repetitions that are incredibly vital and helpful, such as the laws of the universe, rules of math, established traffic patterns and routine garbage pickup. Most importantly, we can rise each day counting on God’s consistent character and unchanging love for us.
 
But then, there’s the other side of familiarity – the archenemy to all the elusive things we chase after, like dreams, ambition, romance, achievement, creativity, innovation, and dynamic relationships. When familiarity runs amuck and crosses over from helpful into damaging, we end up experiencing boredom, complacency, laziness, depression, anxiety, hopelessness, contempt, and mental or emotional apathy. When familiarity takes over our hearts and minds, we can become blind to what’s right in front of us (hello? the glasses on your head or the “lost” keys on the counter) or numb to those who are supposed to mean the most to us, like our spouses, family or friends. There are times I get so bored with my routines that I don’t want to do them anymore, like brushing my teeth (don’t worry, I still do), and the same effect happens with people or situations we encounter on a frequent basis. In conversations, we start filling in the blanks in our minds when a familiar person talks, assuming that we know what he is going to say. With material possessions, we begin to devalue them as they become more familiar. A new piece of technology that you couldn’t put down last month, may not even be in your hands this month. And worst of all, familiarity can lull us into such a comfortable state that we run back to unhealthy situations over and over.
 
As I pondered how familiarity has overrun a few important things in my life, I realized that the following five “A’s” have been critical in helping me continue to chase my dreams, keep my relationships thriving, and not get stagnant in my pursuit of God. Oswald Chambers, the great turn-of-the-century theologian, once said, "Human nature, if healthy, demands excitement; and if it does not obtain its thrilling excitement in the right way, it will seek it in the wrong. God never makes bloodless stoics; He makes no passionless saints.” And that’s the essence of our battle with familiarity. As humans we can’t help but experience familiarity, but we also detest being bored and stagnant. So often, the biggest mistake we make in life is allowing the allure of familiarity’s comforts and false security, to keep us from the very adventure God has called us to take, and instead we fill our natural longings for excitement with counterfeit dreams or fleeting thrills requiring less personal sacrifice, character refinement, time, or discipline. So here are some safeguards to help us prevent familiarity from leading us to make one bad decision after another.

The Five A's to Master Familiarity Before It Masters You
 
Awareness – When we exercise our minds daily to cultivate a fresh experience and perspective regarding the most important people and frequent situations in our lives, we train ourselves to ask more questions, listen more carefully, operate less on previous assumptions, and perhaps most profoundly – to simply become more observant of the little things. One of the biggest dangers in relationships is thinking that you know how someone will behave or what they will say based on your experience with them. Challenge yourself to truly listen to them like you would a new acquaintance. Look at the world around you on your way to work and push yourself to see “stories” in everything. If you woke up having a story to tell (about that dream you had last night, or why you’re not feeling well, or that idea that won’t leave your mind), then remember that everyone else you encounter has one as well. Make it a goal every day to get people to tell you their stories. Watch the rain fall or the clouds move across the sky just to hear God tell you His story through creation. He’s talking if you’re listening. "Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.” Jeremiah 33:3
 
Appreciation – When we have a posture of being thankful for every situation and person – after all, even the challenging ones give us an opportunity to grow – our perspective radically shifts from being complacent (the evil twin of familiarity) to being open and receptive. When we are hopeful, science proves that we are more likely to be creative, innovative, and adventurous. If you want to take on the world, you have to appreciate it, warts and all. “Give thanks in all circumstances…” 1 Thessalonians 5:18
 
Acclimation – I was reading a blog about marriage recently and the author, who is a psychologist, said that familiarity doesn’t breed contempt, but poor acclimation does. In other words, getting more familiar with your spouse (or any other relationships) is a good thing because you’re more likely to be yourself. But as you become more familiar with him or her, you can choose to acclimate in ways that are honorable or dishonorable. Habitual responses to things we don’t necessarily like don’t have to be unhealthy, but it does take work — one decision at a time – to build the right pattern of responses and behaviors. This is how we acclimate well. Familiarity that increases alongside the hard work of love, respect, openness, communication, prayer, and appreciation, prepares us for rewarding adventures with the people we love. "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
 
Authenticity – Familiarity can often lure us into doing something over and over out of habit, not because we actually want to do it. Checking in with yourself about repeated behaviors and routines to see if you authentically want to do them is crucial. Are you being authentic with others, or are you just going through the motions? Familiarity can also cause us to transfer our own perceptions, status, abilities, and beliefs onto someone else we’re close to, making us utterly blind to who they really are. Such was the case with Jesus in his hometown of Nazareth. At the beginning of his ministry, they received him warmly. Who wouldn’t like a hometown hero who turns water into wine? But when he proclaimed Himself to be God and that He was the fulfillment of the Scriptures, they were incensed and threw him out of town. Why? Because they transferred their own life situation onto His. He had been one of their own – like them in so many ways. They were so familiar with his parents, his upbringing, and his socioeconomic status that they assumed he was just like them. So they wholeheartedly and instantly rejected the idea that one of their own could be the long-awaited Messiah. They did not even give Jesus a chance to be His authentic self. When you practice authenticity and not conformity, you are less likely to project yourself on others. 1 Chronicles 29:17 says that God searches and tests hearts for integrity. The Message version puts it this way: "I know, dear God, that you care nothing for the surface—you want us, our true selves—and so I have given from the heart, honestly and happily."
 
Activity – Sometimes we can spend so much time talking about our lives, that we don’t end up doing anything to move them forward or change things we don’t like. Just the habit of talking without action can become overly familiar. Building in a pattern of activity – even if you implement only small steps – to pursue life improvements and spiritual growth, helps prevent you from becoming stagnant or drawn into negative self-talk and gossip. The Bible clearly indicates that a lack of activity and fruitfulness in our lives can lead to gossip and wasting time. "Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.” 1 Timothy 5:13 Plus, if you don’t actually practice doing anything, then you certainly won’t get anywhere.
 
Most of us wake up every day hoping that something will pleasantly surprise us. But many of us miss those surprises because our eyes are fogged in with familiarity. Inspiration doesn’t just appear on the mountaintops of life, it more commonly dwells in the ordinary valleys and typical conversations we encounter on a daily basis. We only need to train our eyes to see it.
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